DON'T CHEAT SELF- DO U REALLY LOVE?

DON’T BE A CHEATER-

This and That Day or Week or month or Year or Century-

Father’s/Mother’s/Christmas/Dipawali/New Year/Brother’s/Sister’s/Friendhip/Solidarity/Independence/Children’s/Sr. Citizen’s/Women’s…..and so on.

Why such appointment of a specific days or short periods to express love, to meet, to gift, to celebrate? Why restrict to a single day or short periods; the love, the happiness, the togetherness etc. that should have been a continuous happening, as frequent as possible?

With the advancing boundaries between villages, cities, states, countries people started spreading out due to compelling reasons of fulfilling basic necessities of self and family. Family used to encompass neighbours, locality, villages. All occasions of celebration or sadness, were ‘our’ occasions. But with spreading out to distant places, personal expression of love, solidarity became difficult. Probably the special events were appointed when socially it became a practice to personally meet the family. On such events employers would gladly give leave of absence to their employees; businesses/shops would gladly remain closed and so on.

To put it briefly, the appointment of specific periods to express love and concern was in culmination of the strong desire to be close to the family. But the ‘stupidity’ of the intelligent humans made such events as in lieu of being close to the family- family in a very broad sense of the word. So a telephone, a hand written letter, a printed card selected out of huge choice of lovely ready made expressions of love, sorrow, condolences, greetings et all. No sweat. Go and buy. Then there came automatic reminders and automatic emails on specified events. No need to remember. Elders came to be referred as ‘furnitures’ in coded language. The ‘love and concern’ deteriorated to such extent for example one set of parents would feel proud because his children staying some distance away, always sent birthday and marriage anniversary greetings and the neighbours children always forgot to do so. One had ample time for annual vacations in international tours but ‘no time’ for the ‘furniture’.

So just think hard before sending a card or telephoning or emailing to someone to profess your love and concern in somebody’s catchy slogans. Is it in lieu of love or because of the strong love surging in your hearts and personal meeting to express it is really and genuinely not possible. If not so, don’t send it- that would be cheating. Examine your 24 hrs, and 365 days- how they were spent. Did you avoid personal stays with people, for whom you profess great love via the emails and preprinted cards, and gave clever excuses? Don’t be a cheater.